Stuttering

Flint (age 4) came to me with his mother. He suffered from unreasonable anger, stuttered and spoke unclearly. When asked his mother if she knew anything about a family secret, she said, “Yes Grandpa is keeping something hidden. Grandpa had suddenly left his homeland out of the blue and never wants to return there. Mother suspects that something has happened that Grandpa does not want to talk about. We talk further and I ask about Flint’s birth and the period before. It turns out that it kept failing to get pregnant. By the twelfth and final IVF attempt, mother had already given up. Fortunately, she then becomes pregnant after all. The despondent, frustrated emotions, the thought “I won’t succeed anyway,” and especially the stress of getting pregnant put enormous pressure on her. Flint lives this “emotional pressure” from mother. We discuss this. A few months later, I see Flint and his mother again. He is cheerful, is comfortable in his fierce, his anger is gone and he talks clearly. The anger and stuttering stemmed from unprocessed emotions and beliefs of his (pre-)parents. Because Flint’s parents understood this, Flint can leave these emotions and beliefs with his (pre-)parents and now enjoy being a child himself. This he does very well!

Possible causes of stuttering:

1. Family Secret

Once you get the message, your symptoms disappear. The answer is in your subconscious; she knows everything. A child who stutters tells a story. To find out which story, it is important to first ask the question: at what age does the child begin to stutter? What happened during this period? Then you can start looking to see if there are things being hushed up in the family. Perhaps there is a one secret in the family. By stuttering, the child is telling people not to speak.

2. Parents’ doubts

Certain letters, sounds and words can be a block. This sound may have been stored at the conflict entry point. With this, this sound tells that there is still stress on it. For example, this sound is linked to an unpleasant memory, shock or secret. The parents may have had doubts about the pregnancy: abortion or not. This doubt may later manifest as stuttering in the child. Parental doubts about their relationship – whether or not to continue together – can also cause the child to stutter.

3. Scared

The conflict may be stored in the larynx, theme terror. By repeating certain sounds, the body signals that this conflict may be resolved. In one family, all the boys start stuttering at eight years old. This is family programming: stuttering is a way for men to express stress. Finally, we come to the question: what happened to the boys at the age of eight? Interesting for the family to explore this.

4. Expression of perfection

Stuttering can also be an expression of perfection: I must be perfect, I must not make mistakes. If this is in a child’s programming, it may create competition in talking. Ask if the child feels it has to be perfect from father, mother, authority? For example, it may also be that after failure in previous relationship(s), the parents feel that the relationship/family should be perfect now.

5. From stress to talent

Different parts of the brain are used for talking and singing. As a singer, Anne can sing fluently. But when Anne talks, she stutters. She is a fantastic songwriter, so she put her talent into language and music. This tells something about her conflict insertion. After all, you turn stress into your talent. Interesting to explore this further: what happened during her Life Blueprint and family tree in relation to expressing yourself? Is there fear on this? Threat? And so on. Each story is unique!