Hallux Valgus – lump at the foot

In a Hallux Valgus, the big toe grows crooked inward due to an overgrowth. The result is a painful lump on the side of the foot called a “bunion. Many people who suffer from this have surgery, but often the misalignment of the big toe returns afterward. Hallux Valgus is more common in women than in men. Regularly you see grandmother, mother and daughter having this deformity of the big toe. What story does this pattern tell?

Kiki’s story: pushed in one direction

Kiki (67) was “thrown on the boat” at the age of five, as she describes it. She is on her way to Holland with her parents. On the boat, she turns six. The stay in the Netherlands was supposed to be temporary, but the family never left. Her parents often argue. Kiki’s mother blames her husband for being here in this cold frog country. She misses her motherland constantly. Her mother is very angry about this. She feels forced in a direction. Kiki was also pushed into a certain education by her mother, although Kiki is now grateful to her for this. Both Kiki and her mother have a lump at the foot. Kiki’s lump shows she is living mother’s story: “pushed in a direction. Kiki has no daughters of her own. Continue reading Mother-Soul-Alone.

Charlotte’s story: dons in a juvenile prison

Charlotte (59) has had a lump near her foot since she was 55. During this time, her mother was brought home with Alzheimer’s. When Charlotte was 20, her mother developed breast cancer. This is the reason Charlotte stopped taking the pill. It was a tumultuous period, during which Charlotte became pregnant with a daughter. Charlotte says her relationship with her daughter is not good. Her daughter was forcibly committed to a juvenile detention center when she was 12, while mother sought help only from juvenile services. A highly undesirable situation. Charlotte feels that daughter blames her for this; that it is Charlotte’s fault that she was forced into juvenile detention.

The story of Mirte: forced into a straitjacket

Mirte (62) has two daughters. The relationship with her eldest daughter is distant, her daughter calling only when she is sick or needs something. Her youngest daughter has had fibromyalgia since she was 14. Mirte has traveled town and country to help her daughter with this. “Meanwhile, I found out that by doing this I was also perpetuating her illness. Yes certainly I am manipulative, it has to be my way.” Mirte also talks about how important it is for her to earn money and be able to support herself. Continue reading fibromyalgia.

At age 25, the lump develops near her big toe. Mirte’s mother married at 25 during the war. She didn’t actually want to get married, but father persevered. A forced situation? Her mother will have two sons. Ten years later, after two more miscarriages, Mirte arrives. Mother can’t believe her luck. Yet as a child, Mirte lacks a real mother. “I was a doll to my mother when I was little. I had to look exemplary. I was forced to live in a straitjacket the way she wanted me to. After Mirte’s birth, her father becomes ill. He dies when she is four years old. When Mirte is fourteen, her mother remarries and from this moment on there is war in the house. Mirte hates her stepfather. From the age of four Mirte has no father; from the age of fourteen she feels she has lost her mother. Mirte’s youngest daughter develops fibromyalgia at age fourteen. Mirte says, “The relationship with my mother and my oldest daughter hurts, but I can’t change it.”

Survival mechanism

During the training days, I explain that living in a straitjacket is survival and biologically necessary to stay alive. Continue reading Beliefs.

What story does your lump tell?

Investigate for yourself what the lump has to tell you. Be open-minded, be surprised and thank your node for her story. This is going to give you a lot. These questions are also going to give you insight and awareness. This affects your body. Answer the questions below and connect with your bump, foot, mother, daughter (if you have one). This research is further deepened during HeartConnection Training.

Questions lump foot:

1. Which foot? Left, right or both? Inside or outside foot?
2. When did the lump start? How old were you?
3. What happened at this age?
4. What happened to your mother at this age? Suppose you are 40 and the lump starts, what happened to your mother when she was 40?
5. What relationship do you have or had with your mother?
6. Where do you miss her and does she still play a role in your life on a daily basis?
7. I love my mother, but……. Do you recognize this? If so, how?
8. “The relationship with my mother hurts me, but I can’t change it.” Do you recognize this? If so, how?
9. ‘My mother wants me to move out of the house.'” Did this play out with you, did your mother kick you out of the house or look out for you? How old were you at the time?
10. Was your mother manipulative in some way? If so, how did you experience this?
11. Your mother (un)consciously and unasked-for pushes you in a certain direction. Do you recognize this? Did she “push” you in a certain direction?

Have a daughter, then answer these questions in relation to your own motherhood:

1. How is the relationship with your daughter?
2. In what do you miss your daughter?
3. “I love my daughter, but…..” Do you recognize this? If so, how?
4. “The relationship with my daughter hurts me, but I can’t change it.” Do you recognize this? If so, how?
5. “I want my daughter to get out of the house.” How old were you? How old was your daughter? Have you experienced this yourself?
6. Are you manipulative in some way toward your daughter? Don’t you have confidence in her?
7. Did you (un)consciously, unasked-for lead your daughter in a certain direction?