Knee

Marjolein (43) tells how on a Saturday afternoon at 4 p.m. she runs two errands for her mother: a pack of coffee and a head of lettuce. Marjolijn has little to no money at the time. She shows her mother the receipt so year mother can pay back the groceries. Mother gets angry and says the coffee is way too expensive. Politely, Marjolijn replies that she will then return the coffee and her mother will only have to pay for the head of lettuce. “Before, I had said ‘Never mind, you can keep the (expensive) coffee,’ in order to keep the sweet peace and make sure that my mother just didn’t get mad at me. Now I said, ‘No problem, I’ll bring the coffee back’. Clear and businesslike. A breakthrough I’m quite proud of.” Three days after this incident, at 4 p.m. Marjolijn gets a very thick knee within an hour. “I knew immediately that this had to do with the incident with my mother that Saturday.” Marjolijn thanks her knee, that it has always supported her and (done) so much work. She arranges crutches and takes rest. Her knee hurts a lot during the day and at night. A week and a half later, at 4 p.m., my fat knee suddenly disappears again within an hour.

The knee: the story of our need

The knee tells a story of our need. What do you want? What are your needs? Are you following your needs? The knee also represents expectations in relation to your mother. You think your mother has certain expectations of you and this is what you live by. For example, “I don’t have permission to be far away from my mother.”

Knee also stands for sportsmanship equity (EWI), competition. “I have to be better than the other person. I want to be first.” This case involves a conflict of unfulfilled ambition or recognition, such as not being able to walk, jump, climb stairs, and so on.

The knee may further relate to a feeling of:

• injustice
• (in)productivity
• faith and spirituality in certain cultures
• birth and our origins
• start of projects/ideas manifest
• not submitting to you, for example a father not wanting to submit to his child or not wanting to submit to your mother’s will
• A forced pregnancy in the family tree

The story of Selicia

Selicia (38) has suffered from her right knee since she was 11 years old. Three years ago, she was diagnosed with a “worn-out knee”: the cartilage in her knee is virtually gone. Selicia feels her knee has to do with her father. It is unusual because the first three letters of her name, SEL, mean salt and this is in relation to father.

Self-esteem

During the Training we treat Eigenvalue with the following body parts: bones, tendons, joints, muscles, skeleton, cartilage, and so on. When we turn to the biological process, Selicia’s question comes up. She says she was under anesthesia as a two-year-old because of surgery. In the period around age 12, she faints regularly. As a teenager, Selicia had a great passion for volleyball, but unfortunately she had to quit this at 16: she suffered a knee injury. This was a great trauma for Selicia. Two years ago, at age thirty-six, her knee jammed during tennis. Sports are really over now.

Grandpa missing

We go back to when she was 11 years old, at this age she developed knee trouble. What happened then? Suddenly Selicia begins to tell an intense story. She was in 8th grade and the school dance was canceled because her grandfather was missing. Father’s father. Grandpa and Grandma had a special relationship with each other, alternating between gloom and depression. The next day, Grandpa is found in the water, having ended his own life. Selicia connects the 11-year-old girl, the sadness, the distress. She gets hot, feels pressure on her chest, agitation, stomach, her shoulders twitch until it calms down.

Life Research

We are impressed with the story of Selicia’s right knee. Thank you for your question and sharing Selicia! During HeartConnection Training, your life inquiry continues.

Francoise’s cruciate ligament story

The cruciate ligament of the knee is related to sports self-esteem conflict and “too much is expected of me. Francoise (15) tore her cruciate ligament while playing field hockey. She keeps having symptoms and decides two years to have surgery on her cruciate ligament. In the evening, she experiences heavy bleeding because of the surgery. Recovery is complicated. “What happened at 15?” I ask her mother, because the knee is related to mother. Her mother tells of finding out a secret about her mother at that age. From then on, she did not trust her mother. This conflict was never resolved. Her daughter’s crotch strap narrates the drama between mother and her grandmother.

Grandma decided from her survival to live this secret. Very possibly there is a possibility of talking to her?

I tip mother and granddaughter to repeat the following phrases regularly:

“I am not responsible for you, mother/grandmother. All secrets I leave with you. Even though I don’t always understand your actions and behavior, I know you are doing this to survive. Thanks to you, I am alive. Thank you. I am sorry that you carry this secret, this tension and have lived to survive. I forgive myself for carrying this secret, this tension with me for so long. I love me. Thank you.”

More about the knee:

Arthritis in the knee

In the elderly, this may be an experience of lack of efficacy. The elderly may perceive their diminishing efficacy as very limited and a sense of inability to move. This causes a sense of impairment (EWI).

Themes of the kneecap:

• My efforts are in vain.
• Everyone moves and moves forward except me.
• I am useless.

Meniscus

A meniscus is a piece of cartilage in the knee. It is shaped like a crescent and ensures that the upper and lower leg fit snugly together. The meniscus provides a better connection between the knee joints, increasing the contact of the joint surfaces. This provides loosening (harmony) for the knee joints and improves knee efficiency.

Meniscus theme: ‘I want more contact, which I have lost.’

Meniscus represents good connection, harmony. If there is a conflict, the person wants a mediator: ‘I need someone to resolve this conflict.’

Meniscus complaints are also seen in issues surrounding reconciliation. Need for reconciliation refers to a dispute, argument or conflict. There is a subtle connection between the bronchi and the meniscus. Bronchi symbolically represents “fear of criticism. As Petra (24) explains, “There was an argument in the family, but I keep my mouth shut. This is because I want to be in good communication with everyone and also with my in-laws.”

The story of Marius (52)

Marius finds out he is gay. He has a family with children and a wife. His wife accepts his orientation. He wants to live in harmony and wants to remain reconciled with his family and lover. He fears criticism from the outside world. Marius holds himself back in daily life as a result. While dancing, he feels free. After dancing, he gets trouble with his meniscus.

Questions for meniscus pain:

• When in your life have you gotten your ass kicked when you did something nice?
• How was the relationship between mom and dad?
• With whom do you want reconciliation?
• Who are you arguing with?
• Do you have a fear of criticism? If so, in what situation(s)?