Alcohol Addiction

Marius (50) tells the One Day that he finds it difficult to feel his emotions: “I can’t. It hurts him. His relationship also suffers. When asked what he feels when expressing his emotions, he replies, “I feel gagged. Then he begins to tell, “I use alcohol chronically and my father was an alcoholic. My father died from alcohol abuse when I was 35. He was a destructive man. I don’t want to be like my father and yet I do the same thing. Fortunately, I’m not aggressive like him.’

In the twenty minutes we spend together, Marius encounters shame, emptiness, abuse. As I ask him questions, he gets tears in his eyes and blood rushes to his face. His heart starts beating faster and his sweat breaks out. These are positive responses from the body: Marius is busy connecting, merging and letting go. Suddenly Marius says, “I’m in such pain to meet my pain, it’s so frightening and confronting. I guide him through this. Everyone in the room feels their sadness.

I am touched and impressed by his honesty. Marius finds it so hard to tell and feel and yet he asked his question and gives clear answers. The way he dealt with his pain was by pushing the other away. How tremendously brave of him to go to pain after all these years. Marius learns to be vulnerable. Through HeartConnection, he learns that everyone is vulnerable. This opens his heart, his feelings. His wife bursts into tears: “All these years I have waited and wished for this to happen. Marius and his wife go home relieved, happy and impressed.

Alcohol as a symbol

Water stands in relation to mother. Alcohol (fire) is in relation to father. The symbol of alcohol consumption is, “I want to feel my mother and father in my body. In other words, it is as if the alcohol reunites the parents in the body.

Use of alcohol among parents and ancestors

We see with Marius that his father and grandfather also used alcohol frequently. Both were aggressive. From parents and ancestors, the use of alcohol is a survival mechanism, the best strategy to deal with life.

In Eastern European countries, alcohol consumption is high: the best way to survive. In Russia, talks go with vodka. As soon as you don’t drink, you are distrusted, because then you have something to hide. So the man does have to drink along. What may also come into play is the memory in the subconscious that parents and/or ancestors froze to death during the war. The younger generation drinks to keep themselves warm.

Besides, in Marius’ family it is not manly to show your emotions. A man must be hefty and strong. If the child seems “weak,” beating must be done to make the child “strong” to cope in this world. Moreover, Marius has seen his father’s use of alcohol; he grew up with it. This works its way into his programming, which is why this pattern keeps repeating. Fortunately, Marius understands his story, can connect-melt-let go. This creates an understanding of himself, his parents and ancestors. This is deprogramming. Now really letting go of this pattern. Congratulations Marius!

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